When Do You Know It’s Time To End The Marriage?
There is never a good time to end your marriage. It is one of the most important relationships in your life. However, sometimes life’s best laid plans force us to take this difficult decision. My parents have had their fights and arguments, but for them the “till death do us apart” concept stays. Some years back I had reached a point when life had become too painful, with way too many battles and very little love. So what do you do, how do you decide that enough is enough. That it’s time to end it and move ahead!
There are many reasons why people decide that it’s time to end their marriage. Here I have given you a glimpse, of some of the most common and most debatable reasons; people have come to me as a marriage counselor. It’s not to say that any of these reasons are the only ones, or a valid basis for ending a marriage. Just that these reasons do, cause a lot of soul searching.
There is no reason to suffer violence
The number of times, I have heard women who are being abused say “he can’t help it” is not funny. Mind you I am not just talking about physical but also verbal abuse. Physical violence is something most women understand. However it’s the verbal abuse most women accept and do not take into account.
Losing respect in a relationship
Sometimes it can be just the fact that one or both of the partners have lost respect for each other. This would be a sign post for the relationship to end as well. One of my friends left her husband, after he took on a case which prosecuted a single mother, in favor of a large corporation. There is no anger, just a fundamental difference in principals that causes the loss of respect. The danger of staying in the relationship is, that it may result in a further deterioration of relationships.
Now I know this sounds clichéd at best. However, it does not make it less probable, that it happens. Especially when people get into relationships at a young age! We tend to absorb, grow and change as life happens. It’s not necessary that two people living together, would absorb, grown and change in the same direction. They develop a sense of self & identity, which does not support the marriage choice of yesterday. For e.g. my cousin got married when she was young. Over the years my sister has developed a business and wants to expand it. While my brother-in-law, is looking for a wife who can support him as he climbs the corporate ladder.
At the end of the day, it’s not an easy decision you can make.Any of the above reasons (or others) could be the deciding factor. However what I would always suggest is this; when you sit down to think, don’t look at the history first. Search inside your heart, which is where you will find the most important answer. You can lie to your head, but you cannot lie to your heart.
This article is authored by Chris Morris. He is one of the finest divorce lawyers in Boston MA. He shares important law tips and advice through his articles.